Book Overview
Relationships that don’t work are like a cancer. Cancer is where destructive cells take over healthy cells that may be weakened or stressed in some way. Ideally, our relationships are opportunities for us to get together with others and share love (in the form of support, caring, understanding, fun, the pleasure of sex, kids, nature, food or the world). We also can use these relationships to work through unfinished traumas, pain or wounding from earlier times in our lives. Usually both opportunities are present. It’s easy to confuse the two. We usually come together because it’s wonderful! After a while it gets safe to be with this person and our unfinished stuff automatically comes up to be resolved. The confusing part is like cancer. When our pain comes up, it starts to lower our frequencies and we are not in a good place. This is accompanied by the cancer of blame, fear, passivity, despair and anger and distracting behaviors such as addiction and cheating. These can take over the health of our wonderful feelings for our partner. This is a book about learning to own your own feelings, and become aware of the symptomatic habits of the emotional cancer that can take over when your old stuff is up for resolution. And yes, old stuff can be resolved!